The problem has finally been resolved with the wig seller giving me a full refund of my RM68 with me bearing both shipping from and to her. This post was originally written on the 25/7 while I was feeling extremely annoyed. The feeling has now cooled down with the money safely back in my account.
My thoughts on the entire experience was it was a good lesson to the both of us. For one, I met lots of people who's exercise is probably nothing besides jumping to conclusion and having to meet someone who can spin stories better than how spiders can spin their webs. Everything's over and I'm so freaking relieved. Even my drama queen pimples has subdued. Thank Heavens!
So while everything is fine, which I truly sincerely hope so, I will still post up this article that I written then as part of 'my side of the story' only because I'm not too pleased with all the bombing I got.
So all in all, I'm not saying that the wig seller was someone bad. Each of us handled things differently and we have our own flaws. She sells some pretty interesting things actually and if I never had this problem with her, I would probably be more than happy to buy from her but considering our situation, I'll personally be staying away as I've probably been blacklisted :P
I decided to check my complain thread and saw that I was badly bombed by some idiots there. Yes, it's not very nice to call people idiots and yes it's not very nice to make a post of it after everything's been "resolved" but over here, in my blog, it would be my side of the story.
As I was saying, I finally went to the Trade Zone Helpdesk & Dispute Resolution Corner after P**~ didn't reply my PM on how to settle it.
It's fast becoming a crime to speak good English in Malaysia. Not only will you be an outcast but mostly people who cant speak English for shit for whatever reason they never bothered to learn will accuse us of trying to show off. *sigh* And the government is thinking of reverting Science and Maths to our national Language. I can see the future. I can see that Malaysia will be filled with people who can't speak English. I fear. I will migrate!
Back to 'story'. I happily call some people idiots because while it's easy to be immature and biased, don't make a utter fool of yourself by not finding out proper information before you open your big mouth. Yes I have a link to my blog on my signature and you can very well come over to my blog to leave something nasty. But the very least you can do is to listen to both sides of the story before being too quick to judge. Yes P**~ is your friend, yes, you want to score brownie points, yes you want to jack balls or whatever other reason you have. But please do know both sides of the story.
There was all sorts of accusation pointing at me through the entire thread from me threatening to make a police report to me threatening to post up a YouTube video even, which I found hilarious. First off, I don't even know how to upload pictures into YouTube yet alone make an entire video clip and post it up.
Then the sob stories comes up on how P**~ talked to me till 2.30am when she has to wake up at 6.30am and how she cried. Of course she failed to mention that it was me who was asking her to go sleep and rest up and that we'll talk in the morning when we are both not so angry and hell, does she thinks she's the only one who cried, it was MY hard earned money for God's sakes and I was looking for a wig for months!
So anyway, I decided to post up a few part of our PM to everyone to read and in the end, if you still think that I'm an absolute monster. So be it. First up, the thing P**~ posted
Thank you for those who making things difficult, allowing us to learn a valuable lesson, allowing us deeply understand how every single cent is counted and valuable, improve our EQ n experiences at the same time. we shall improve and continue to improve time by time.
I feel offence when you are trying to pull me down, bad writing and spoilt my reputation. In fact, I found out that still many customers pm us to ask us help them order n also some r try to giving support n consolation secretly. asking us be tough, the wise one will know how to judge. really deeply appreciate to u guys, so sweet.What do you want me to say? You are very welcome. Life is full of experiences, so take this that you should always check your goods before sending them out, Stop blaming the customers and create stories and sob stories to make yourself look good. You have no EQ, you can't handle problems, you get problem, you push them back to customers, if a customer comes to you with a problem, the first words out of your mouth is, "None of our business" and proceed to blame customers.
Strong business goes on, we do not want to deal with an unreasonable and nonsense customers. The wigs is really in good condition b4 sent out n checked. Tired to explain n explain again, I assume to lose the money for a charity.
The customers deal with us b4 will know our nice service, no need to talk much. And For those customers who r unable to bare the risk by buying online n the cause by courier company, looking up some money as big as their whole property or assets, pls pass by our threat next time, do forgive us n we r so sorry not to have the wise knowledge n the honour to serve u.
And for God's sakes, learn how to read English. How many times do you want me to tell you that I'm not here to pull you down and that all I wanted was to get things settled. If I get RM1 for everytime I tell you that, I would have made the wig money back!
Well, let me put some of my opinion for the wig that I've bought. Seriously, I've tried few times to put it on, hoping to get the same effect as the modelled pic that posted in her thread. But end up I've figured different people will look differently for the exactly same wig, and I even felt weird when I look into myself with wigs. Moreover, the wig is little messy and having some frizziness which I believe that's what h.e.v.n encountered. I've applied some of my hair serum on the wig and surprisingly, the frizziness gone and the hair become smoothI posted it because, this person has also encountered the exact same problem as me. Although she made it all better by applying serum, but thing is that, the frizziness problem with my wig is not the first then! See seeeeeee! *points*
What goes around turns around, the buyer should not threaten the seller for saying that she's going to make police report, to spread news on you-tube and so forth. I believe this is not the wise way to settle things as well. Both are making things worst.
About the second sentence, I blame the person who told her the ridiculous story...
Do not try to pretend innocent, though you wrote good English. Do not be the Super-Niao S.....
Go and learn this " Mastering.Negotiations". It would benefit you
Who's trying to be innocent here? Anyway I have every right to be Super Niao-Siau cause it's my money. D'oh. Unless you think that buying defected good is okay. Then please buy my wig. Thanks :D
Then again, save the money and buy yourself a brain. It would definitely benefit you.
P.s: Niao-Siau = can literally be translated as 'Troublesome'
it's really abit over n unethical making a seller's threat being so 'hot' n concern by all people. pull others down n still trying to pretend or being as 'innocient' customer n 'kind girl'
ppl like this wont go far... n i feel comtempt for those ppl that show off their eng just to attack ppl.
When things happen, accussion should not to go to the seller only. for those who dont know how to appreciate n only know how to point their fingers to others. she should feel shameful.
especially making sellers threat hot but didnt get any support or feedbacks she wan from others. n then turn to here to find the 'fairness' she wan.
pls la, i believe tat the wise one will know how to judge.
& Pretty, If I m not mistaken, if u can exchange, surely u already exchange at the very beginning instead of wasting too much time with her. however, just a small suggestion, i know it's may impossilble to claim or get from ur supplier, u may offer a certain amount such as 50% refund by using ur own money to compensate her. to let someone stop b*rking here.
if she still refuse, i think u should just leave it, ignore her or even blacklist her in all ur selling thread as well. just my 2 cents
- Biggest idiot aka P**~ on a mule/dupe account
I don't exactly know where all this 'innocent' stuff is coming from but I'm guessing that a certain 'someone' has been saying lots of things about me. ARGH then again, I don't understand all her bad English shit! She's starting to sound like she translated everything form Babel Fish after a while and I'm tired of deciphering whatever she's saying. Can someone from Malaysia whatmore so close to the capital really talk like this? Which cave did she crawled out from again?
And.. HAHA! Must be embarrassing for you getting caught by a moderator for using a mule account. Serves you right! Using mules to 'buy' your own stuffs and self praising.
Go to the nearest convenience store and buy yourself some Humble Pie.
P.s: I really have no idea what's with all that about me trying to make her threat 'hot'.
I admit that I may not be the smartest person around. Perhaps along the way, I might have said something wrong to her. If I did, I sincerely apologize. But know for a fact that atleast I never put words into her mouth and try to make myself the innocent victim here while spinning stupid stories. Below are paste from MY part of the PM, since the person I'm talking to might throw a hissy fit seeing her name here again. Despite only reading my side of the conversation, I hope that you'll be able to figure out what she's trying to say on the other side.
Re:hi, Jul 15 2009, 01:47 AM
"sorry... n i m decided not to sell hair wigs anymore as apologization. "
I rather you just change a new wig for me or refund me. That's all. I'll ship the wig back to you myself happily and even remove my post in my blog.
Do you seriously think I'm very happy to do this. I BELIEVE you are a nice person and trust worthy too but you cannot take pressure or responsibility when something bad happen and this is your downfall.
I too am a seller of imported goods in LYN but under another username which I will not reveal. I understand the stress and I understand you wanting to help other which I admire.
But please, all i want is not an argument or anything, i just want to settle this not by exchange threats or angry words. Know that I too felt cheated if you suddenly don't want to take responsibility.
I am NOT here to hurt you, although I do not know you, I also like you a lot. I am not lying. All i want is simple, please understand my position as well.
if you read my blog ppl somemore ask me make police report, to me, that is crazy. I myself also don't want to do that kinda shit.
I do NOT want to go to the extend of posting up your name, IC number and everything in my blog and say that you damn irresponsible just in case your future employer google your name and see all this.
I do think about you as well which is why I am pm-ing and posting in your thread wanting to settle this properly and not do anything stupid which both of us might regret.
Re:hi, Jul 15 2009, 02:02 AM
Police report is something someone else suggested and like I said, I will NOT do, please calm down and read my words.
NO, refund means that you are a responsible seller and is willing to make your customers happy. I do not see this as admitting that you are wrong cause no one blame or said that you are wrong in the first place.
Hello, I am as stressed out as you are over this okay because in the end, it's my money
I am stressed over this issue but I am NOT angry, the only one angry here is you.
Like I said, I can remove my post and even retrack back what I said by saying that you did the right thing by refunding me (if you did) and everything would have been fine. It[s you who is all angry and all.
Please go sleep and in the morning, reply my messages. That way our mind would have been much clearer and our hearts not so hot.
I will NOT go to police station but I might do something not very nice. Not threatening you, all I want is a win-win situation for the both of us. I'm not thinking of myself here but I'm thinking for the both of us.
So what am I?
Monster in the making perhaps? Now if you'll excuse me while I go adjust my halo a little bit, it's not balancing very well on my horns for some strange reason... *rolls eyes*
Oh and please learn how to differentiate between 'thread' and 'threat'. There's a huge difference. REALLY huge difference.